“Do not pity the dead, Harry.
Pity the living, and, above all, those who live without love”.
Since Amy Winehouse's death last July 23, several people over Facebook have been paid tribute and lamented her death. For many she had fame, money and a big talent even being very young, being then a pity the way she passed away. However, few are those who wonder why, even having fame and money, she was so self-destructive, being several times being caught red-handed drunk and drugged?
We do not need to wait a known worldwide artist to die due to overdose for us to wonder what drives one to drugs and alcohol. A lot of you, readers, might have someone of your family or some friend of yours who has problems with these narcotics. However, few are those who try to help them someway, and lots of people prefer to judge, to avoid and ignore their existence.
The Brazilian people have the big imperfection of refuting everything that can harm their precious “happiness”. The myth that Brazilians are happy is due to their irresponsibility and cowardice to face any situation that may displease them. It is easier to judge and elaborate theories that are totally unfounded and prejudiced. Vapour tears and a need to disguise revolt face the barbarian crimes are nothing but an attempt of showing a humanity that no longer exists since they adopted the carpedienzism of the emotional disguise dictatorship as a life philosophy. Who is not a bigot carpedienzist is labeled as someone unhappy, negative and who should be avoided.
It is necessary, however, to have the discernment to not to appeal to extremes. Nobody needs to be the pathetic bigot carpedienzist – who is the gear that moves out society back –, neither those who are always focused in making the world a better place wanting to help every one. Nobody needs a Bible and being a religious person to fully understand the meaning of “brotherly love”.
What drives one to alcohol and drugs? What all the addicted people have (and do not have) in common? They are all people without a way to follow and that look for relief to their inner desperation through some chemical substance that give them the pleasure sensation. The pleasure ends and they will want it more and more and, without realizing that, they will be losing friends, family, mental sanity and mainly, damaging their heath. Lots of them do not have anyone who can give them psychological comfort that all the human beings need. Of course some people try those substances influenced by friends and the propaganda of a supposed “liberty”, but will be hard for those who have a good mental and familiar structure to cede and use them.
The origin of many problems is the lack of love, either the lack of love from the others to you or the lack of love for yourself. It is not necessary to spend some years at college and graduate as a psychologist or psychiatrist to learn how to develop feelings – and in their case, they are often artificial. Anyone who has sensibility, humanity and social responsibility will not be the one who will criticize the drunks and drugged to hereupon turn them away, but will be the one who will try to help within the limits the sick will establish based, as well, in their willpower to help themselves to go out from their misery.
The addicted people need to look for help and go to rehab and carpedienzists Brazilians need to extirpate their egoism and develop brotherly love. All of us need love.
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*Opening phrase credits to J.K. Rowling for her book “Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows”.
