In the end

In the end, you get what you deserve.

People say it is impossible a relationship between rich and poor people to go ahead. Who is rich would get bothered with the lack of good manners and the self-indulgence face small things. Who is poor would get embarrassed face to the rich vocabulary, cultural experience and a totally opposite lifestyle. But if there is not the willingness of building something together and overcome the social barriers and the inferiority complex, poor people will end up with the poor ones and rich people will end up with the rich ones.

People say it is impossible a relationship between pretty and ugly people to go ahead. Who is pretty would get bothered of not having a “presentable” one to his parents and friends. Who is ugly would have jealousy and insecurity crisis frequently due to his appearance complex. But if there is not the willingness of building something together and overcome the barriers of the beauty standard and the lack of confidence on yourself and on your partner, ugly people will end up with the ugly ones and pretty people will end up with pretty ones.

People say it is impossible a relationship between out of the closet guys and in the closet guys to go ahead. Who is out would get bothered whenever he feels he imposes embarrassment to his boyfriend. Who is in would get embarrassed to show affection in public and come out homosexual to his parents and friends. But if there is not the willingness of building something together and overcome the barriers of homophobia and rejection complex, in the closet guys will end up with in the closet ones (or even by themselves) and out of the closet guys will end up with out of the closet ones.

People say it is impossible a relationship between worthy people and idiot people to go ahead. Who is worthy would get bothered by the lack of honesty and someone who values him. Who is an idiot would miss the liberty of getting no strings attached lovers to be able to discard them when it is convenient for him. But if there is not the willingness of building something together and overcome the barriers of selfishness and lust, worthy people will end up with the worthy ones and idiot people will end up with idiot ones.

That is the way the things end up. In the end, you get what you deserve. If a relationship did not go ahead as you wanted, it is because it was not supposed to. It is very common for the people to end up with their equals because the way is easier: they have things in common and live similar realities. The opposite to it would require a fight few are those who are willing to fight for. Because when you really like someone, you go for it and face whatever it comes because your love is bigger than your fear. And when you do not, you give up earlier and leave the ways opened to each one to get what they give.

Antiophidic serum

Making unusable the wisdom of a setback in your life is ignorance, is learning nothing and is to be susceptible to relive it sooner or later.

Some diseases are acquired once in a lifetime and, after healed, the person becomes immune to them. The venom of snakes, spiders and other venomous animals can be used as a counter-poison to the treatment of those who got their bit. It is not so different compared to human beings relationships.

There is always a positive side even in the worst situations. It is not very intelligent refuse yourself to see it through Pollyana's eyes. And it is not cliché to see opportunity in the difficulty. Making unusable the wisdom of a setback in your life is ignorance, is learning nothing and is to be susceptible to relive it sooner or later. And unless you are masochist, nobody wants to feel back the same pain, the same suffering.

People who bothers us will appear along our lifetime even if we try to avoid them and be at their environments. People like these are in every family, every company, every social class... The reasons may be diverse.

Then someone offends you, humiliates you, destroys you... You may forget the words, but you will never forget how you felt. There will always be a first time to live these bitter sensations – and situations like these are not few and there will always be a new one. The more you listen to your family and friends advices, read books, you will only really learn not to lower yourself after having seen the good side that the suffering implied to you after had felt it on your soul. This is when you develop the so-called immunity to it and that is why that is important to make use of the opportunity the difficulty is giving to you, otherwise, it is probable that you will end up making the same mistakes in the future.

When you are annoyed, you may end up learning more about yourself regarded to your vulnerabilities. You discover what hurts you and you can work on it and try to find a solution if it has a psychological background.

After some time, you find yourself in a conflict situation with a new person who is trying to let you down. Armed with the weapons you got from those difficult situations, you learn how to defend yourself and fight back. And one of the most curious weapons you have is one you inherited from an enemy. You may use the same words or even have the same attitudes of someone who hurt you because you know how much it hurts, the how much you bled. Perhaps Freud has already written something about the transposition of the pain...

With the sorrow, we develop our antiophidic serum, out immunity. With the sorrow, we discover our weaknesses to work on our spiritual strengthening or hiding them, or project them on the others. And remembering the sorrow, we may attempt to hurt someone in the same way someone had hurt us...