Further

It is difficult not associating people around us to happiness. We need people; the most difficult thing is finding the right ones.

During our life, we met thousands of people, but only some of them will become our friends or affairs. We seek for special people who will support us in difficult times. Have not we already found these ones but we have not notice it or we have ignored them?

You may say:

― But there are a lot of people in this world. How could we know?

We create a kind of filter. We filter people and we also idealize the ones who do for us, taking in consideration our tastes, expectations and personality.

Sometimes we get so focused in the profile we are looking that makes us ending up considering it as true. What does not fit the ideal is not useful, so our filter says: discard this one.

We discard people because we have no patience for trying to know them better. We blindly believe in our jaundices and crazy theories about “the reason of they behaving the way they do”, even though we have just met them five minutes ago.

You may have already met someone who you considered unbearable at the first sight, but today, helped by the time, you have discovered that you was wrong about this one, right? Of course it may have happened! But what did you change your mind? The fact of living together with this one?

Yes, living together force us knowing people deeper. It shows us that our conceits of “the right person for me” limits us too much, it makes us close our eyes not seeing people out of our conceits may also be interesting. It is a matter of taking a chance on others and taking a chance on you.

― Oh, but there are a lot of people in the world and my filters are so helpful...

Let’s be careful with our filters, ideals and conceits. They not only limit us on knowing a very specific kind of people as they also may be specious. They can make our searching on looking for interesting people something exhausting and frustrating.

So what about ignore them a little bit? Will you be able to discover the “knowing me, knowing you” magic? Are you willing? Are you willing to look further?